Yesterday, we got up close to the money Innocent core of fear. Today’s post looks at crusty old fears about money that have hardened into a Victim story. If you are still reading this post, let me tell you: you’re in for a treat. Once you heal these fear patterns, they have no power over your money life. And tomorrow we’ll talk about money Martyrs!* Even crustier old patterns of fear!!
There’s terror, and then there’s old terror telling you the same story over and over. That’s the Victim. You find the story so convincing (about why you never have enough, why others always do, and why everyone else has the power or the money) that you are, in a word, seduced. You give it a lot of your creative energy. You participate in it. You engage.
The Victim can be found in our most vulnerable place–our reproductive area. Our genitals. These are supposed to be used to create life, and they do–wherever we direct the life-force in us is where they create more life. This is a problem if we have directed our life-force into stories perpetuating our victimhood. Many of us have connected our genitals with victimization. See my paper,“Money Tracks Sexuality” about this connection.
Now you may hate this, but for me, the story about the 1% vs. the 99% feels like a Victim story. I am way more interested in what each of us has to offer and to take responsibility for than bashing the 1%. Don’t get me wrong: I am very interested in anyone who could be construed as in the 1% also putting their cards on the table, offering what they have and sharing resources and taking major responsibility. I’m just not letting any of us off the hook by blaming others. It’s way too easy. To see what I mean, imagine if Dr. King or Mohandas Gandhi focused on the 1%. Did they see all the power in the hands of the 1%? No way. That would have made a joke of their movements for specific, direct, social changes to be implemented. What they saw, with their “eyes on the prize,” was that a small group in power did have something that belonged to them and if treated as peers, as equals in their common humanity, would give up what belonged to the majority because it was right, and because it was damaging to both sides for it not to be so. They also saw that a large number of people were supporting the small group in power through their complicity. Complicity could mean our participation in unequal power-sharing in any one of many small and medium-sized ways.
If we are convinced we don’t have any money or power, we are, for all practical purposes, correct. We don’t have any we can use anyway, and what’s the point of having it if you don’t use it? Remember that “money wants to move,” as I wrote in my first post. It’s not about how much you have as how strategically you use it that counts. This is what we address when we coach or consult.
So the way out of this old story is to stop telling it. Redirect your reproductive rights into your life-affirming book of stories about money. Start now.
*The money archetypes discussed in this series, “Emotional Blocks to Raising Money” are based on the work of Deborah L. Price, founder of the Moneycoaching Institute from whom I have certification as a moneycoach for individuals and organizations.