In our first two posts in this series, we looked at blocks to money centered in our minds and our throats. Another place we can be blocked around money is much more primal. Some call it our root chakra–the place we pee and poop, the place our body connects to the Earth when we sit on the ground, the place that constricts when we are afraid we don’t have enough, and the place that relaxes when we know we are enough.
To some, it sounds great to be “innocent” when it comes to money. “Innocent” means non-harming. It’s nice not to hurt anyone else with money, like the Tyrant. While we may be pure of heart, and I hope we are, to be “an innocent” is to be like a child. To be like a child when you are really an adult means you can’t be responsible for yourself.
Innocents are clueless, and that is something we do not want to be with money.
The Innocent’s emotional block to money feels like
- terror of even of talking or hearing about money
- uncertainty that there will be enough money to survive
- a certainty that someone else holds the purse strings and the power around money.
Much of the Innocent’s terror around money is raw fear of not surviving. Now, it doesn’t matter at all that everyone around the Innocent knows s/he will survive. What heals the Innocent is learning deep within s/he will survive. How to cultivate this knowing in a person with a strong Innocent archetype is delicate work. It’s like a hothouse gardener watching over small, tender plants.
We begin this work with great tenderness and great firmness. Firmness we express by giving ourselves a structured time and place to work on it. One action to take is writing or drawing our core beliefs about money and beginning to detach from them. Once we create detachment, healthier beliefs about money can grow within us. Another is hiring a money coach (like me!) or reading Deborah L. Price’s* Money Magic and working its exercises.
We all have a very wise self, as we may have an Innocent self. This wise self knows better about money than to think it is scarce, or controlled by those in power. It understands that we each have some resources and builds on the ones that grow in us, tenderly and firmly.
*Deborah L. Price is the founder of moneycoaching, and the person who certified me as a moneycoach.