Antiracism is Fun, and How: Post #22 in Our Series, What One (White) Person Can Do

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I might be the only person who thinks it’s fun to be antiracist but I doubt it.  One soul-colleague of mine (a man of color who does a lot of it) describes antiracism work as going to the dentist. I describe it as going to the spa. I think this is an important difference that may make white people more likely to become actively less racist: that it be fun. That it feel good to us as well as do good for others. Self-interest is the most powerful long-lasting and sustainable motivator I know. Just sayin’. So, thinking I may have found yet another one of my odd blogging niches (the fun of antiracism), let me “count [just a few of] the ways”:

  1. I am having a great time with my white authors’ fast. I put myself on a reading diet of authors of color only a couple of years ago. I thought it might last a year–but it is really too much fun to stop. It makes choosing what I read more varied and interesting. It makes finding books faster and causes the just-right books to fall into my lap very often, because I am putting out a very clear frequency that attracts them in each subject area I tend to pursue: spiritual, philosophical, fiction. (You can find out more about my reading here.)
  2. Because I know I’m doing my best with zest, I am less embarrassed to be stupid around people of color and about issues of racism. I am more humble and this makes it easier for me to change. It makes me more porous to supportive help. (I do not ask people of color for help with my racism on a routine basis and I don’t recommend doing that! I can say why if you ask. Help arises situationally, if we pay attention to the subtle level of things.)
  3. I am much more free to spend much more energy on opportunities that come my way to make a difference, just because I’ve decided to make this change in my life.

Fun doesn’t mean it’s a game. Fun doesn’t mean we don’t take it seriously. When it’s fun we simply want to do our best with zest!  Celebrate your changes! And write in if you feel moved.

Ox-Cutting, Even for Vegetarians

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Ants moving their nest. Image by and uploaded to Wikimedia Commons by Fanghong, accessed via Creative Commons Search.

Every so often, we run a post that has required of us and requires of you more than usual. This is one of those posts.

I wrote our soul-colleague Abraham Mwaura about this poem I knew he would know (below), asking he blog with me because I know his practice and his reflection on his practice are one and the same, as a world-changer and a RAISING CLARITY soul-colleague of long date. I wanted to USE the poem for a while and asked him to use it too, so we could share our practice and reflection with you. First, the poem. It’s from the “other” book on the Tao, The Way of Chuang-Tzu:

Cutting Up An Ox

Prince Wen Hui’s cook
Was cutting up an ox.
Out went a hand,
Down went a shoulder,
He planted a foot,
He pressed with a knee
The ox fell apart
With a whisper,
The bright cleaver murmured
Like a gentle wind.
Rhythm! Timing!
Like a sacred dance,
Like “The Mulberry Grove”
Like ancient harmonies!

“Good work!” the Prince exclaimed,
“Your method is faultless!”
“Method?” said the cook
Laying aside his cleaver,
“What I follow is Tao
Beyond all methods!

“When I first began
To cut up oxen
I would see before me
The whole ox
All in one mass.
“After three years
I no longer saw this mass.
I saw the distinctions.

“But now, I see nothing
With the eye. My whole being
Apprehends.
My senses are idle. The spirit
Free to work without plan
Follows its own instinct
Guided by natural line,
By the secret opening,
The hidden space,
My cleaver finds its own way.
I cut through no joint, chop no bone.

“A great cook needs a new chopper
Once a year – he cuts.
A poor cook needs a new one
Every month – he hacks!

“I have used this same cleaver
Nineteen years.
It has cut up
A thousand oxen.
Its edge is as keen
As if newly sharpened.
“There are spaces in the joints;
The blade is thin and keen:
When this thinness
Finds that space
There is all the room you need!
It goes like a breeze!
Hence I have this cleaver
Nineteen years
As if newly sharpened!

“True, there are sometimes
Tough joints. I feel them coming,
I slow down, I watch closely,
Hold back, barely move the blade,
And whump! the part falls away
Landing like a clod of earth.

“Then I withdraw the blade,
I stand still
And let the joy of the work
Sink in.
I clean the blade
And put it away.”

Prince Wen Hui said,
“This is it! My cook has shown me
How I ought to live
My own life!”

(translated by Thomas Merton)

My first question to Abe was what lines were most relevant to his organizing work (including fundraising, and including the election work he had just done on a Chicago campaign this past Spring)? He answered:

The line that jumps out at me refers to working in resonance with the Tao by being “guided by the natural line.”

Overall the poem reinforces how important work is as part of a spiritual practice. I’ve heard quotes from Gandhi and my dad about the importance of work. Work has a spiritual impact and is a large portion of how we interact with the outer world. Of course a monk like Merton would love Chuang Tzu and translate this poem. Like in organizing, the work of the monks mostly goes to benefit community.

The trick for both is to turn action into praxis. Both an organizer and a spiritual seeker have to reflect and find meaning in their work. Think of Jesus the carpenter or St. Paul the tentmaker. They must have found meaning in their work. In fact the work must have been prayer. This must be why Merton the Catholic Monk loved the Taoists.

Even though many mystics are clear about working prayerfully I find I often dissociate work from the spiritual path.

Work need not just be a way to earn an income, but inseparable from one’s spiritual practice. We separate Jesus the carpenter from Jesus the spiritual master. Do we imagine that Jesus was a mediocre craftsman, or that the Apostle Paul was just an okay tent-maker? Was Lao-Tzu just another librarian? Even Sun Tzu can be viewed as a spiritual warrior. One of the implications of the poem is that those who work-like-prayer attain mastery over both work and prayer.

It is the same ease we seek when following our spiritual path that we should seek in our work. Active non-doing or effortless-effort, associated with a state of profound meditation, achieved by uncontrived resonance of work with the Tao “guided by the natural line.” This effortless-effort makes our tools sharp.

I have not accomplished such ease in my work. I found my recent political work stressful, and my friend still lost the election. The other side intimidated, lied and ultimately cheated. I know there’s a better way to contribute to my community and if I’m working to run people for office I need to do it differently, particularly after seeing the caliber of people who came together to support my friend. Somehow like Chuang Tzu is suggesting my work must be guided by nature more closely. I just don’t know how yet. I suppose I will simply keep searching and find my own way in the end, just like the cleaver.

And then Abe asked me: What is your favorite line? I wrote back that my favorite lines were about no longer seeing the mass of the ox–not seeing any distinctions at all, so (on a good day) I

cut through no joint, chop no bone

and the last thing–the thing that made me ask us each to take a month to work with the poem–was how with your blade in the ox (your mind on your work) you could know where the thin places are, to move through easily, and can care for tough places like this:

feel them coming, slow down, watch closely, hold back, barely move the blade

so that “whump! the part falls away landing like a clod of earth.”

I had more thoughts during the month:

The blade is my consciousness, my chi. The ox is Life as it moves toward me, light or heavy. (Though this is an illusion, it’s how we are schooled to experience ourselves-in-Life, as two rather than one.) Heavy experiences are ones I do not know how to meet. I do not see spaces in them. They look as though they would turn my blade away. I meet their heaviness with patience and a heavy blade held almost still. I let them break over me like waves, and instead of avoiding, I am eager to receive their heaviness turned into gravity/momentum against my blade which cuts without effort, slightest simple awareness. The pain I feel is my resistance to living this moment, staying awake through it.

One more thing drew my attention:

Something I noticed yesterday is that I actually try to slow down the ox coming toward my knife when I feel it is moving “too fast.” This I did not read in the poem but the poem I think addresses it. We have to be ready, however fast or slow the ox seems to be moving. I had thought of enjoying the fast-moving times and learning to deal with the slow-moving times, but I had not realized that I also have to learn to deal with the fast-moving times.

And then Abe related this experience from his awaiting outside to do a job for someone:

I had this twilight experience with the Tao the other day: Tarmac appears to be shimmering. It’s ants moving about. I can see them as far as 20 feet away. Dare I do t’ai chi?
In the end I do, the ants are more masterful than i as though my feet went swimming their qi briefly.
I could then walk around and they simply make me a path and themselves a path.
I was incredulous and asked:  You mean the ants parted, like the waters parted? And Abe wrote back one word:
Yup.
Finally, the month was up. The poem is not exhausted. Nor are we. It’s just time for this poem-practice to be shared. Here is some of Abe’s reflection:
I have been thinking a lot about struggle as part of the illusory world, and walking the spiritual path without struggling–letting go rather than working to acquire or achieve. This seems like a necessary part of being able to use the cleaver such that it is as though newly sharpened. The cleaver is the mind to me. If I struggle in work the mind becomes dull. The mind is sharpened when I remember to do work meditatively, finding, or more allowing the mind to pass through “like a breeze.” It’s like the Tao does the work. True effortless effort.
 I asked Abe for more thoughts on integrating the poem with practice, and give him the last word:

The poem speaks to doing work consciously connected to the Tao.  But to talk about practicing the poem, not just deciphering it, I need to start with a caveat: this is truly a ‘do as I say – not as I do’ moment. Dogen would call this “talking Zen instead of practicing Zen.” What I suggest in terms of practice is aspirational; it reflects my practice when I’m at my best, which is rare. All the same, I have a formula I want to share and explore; meditate daily + find meaningful work.

Firstly, one must be constantly conscious of where all action comes from, whether spiritual, mental or physical: Tao is the basic energy source for all action and the soul actually does all action. So our actions are a reflection of our connectedness with the Tao. But how can one possibly stay connected to the infinite all the time and in every minute’s activity as is described in the poem?

For many years (though I’m very young), I struggled with the the Apostle Paul’s mandate to “pray without ceasing.” How could this even be possible? It certainly does not happen automatically in the modern psyche. My personal answer is to aspire to an active prayer life. In particular, one must practice meditation every day. It’s a reminder to oneself of what clarity of mind feels like, looks like, sounds like… is like, so that during the day one only has to recall their morning meditation to center themselves and let the knife of the mind be sharpened when cutting through every action.

In particular, daily meditation allows one to be aware of breath. Most people understand that we have conscious actions and unconscious actions (voluntary and involuntary). Breath is considered involuntary–except when it’s not. Paramahamsa Hariharananda has a saying that I reflect on often: “Breath control is self-control, breath mastery is self-mastery, and breathlessness stage is deathlessness stage.” Wow! Try counting your breaths to center yourself. Or breathe into your navel, or third eye, or fontanelle. You will quickly see why turning this particular involuntary action into a voluntary one has major implications on the development of your consciousness. The amazing thing is that you can breathe consciously while doing your daily routine. One’s daily work, even the most mundane activities, can become a spiritual experience by simply remembering to breathe. Indeed that is what all one’s experience is–spiritual.

Secondly, one must actively seek meaningful work. If one thinks their job sucks, don’t wonder why so little spiritual or psychological progress is achieved. There are many self-development approaches, but for the question of meaningful work my preferred tool is Ira Progoff’s Intensive Journal. Beyond any particular tool, I suggest some kind of structured psychological self-exploration needs to be paired with meditation. One needs a way to keep a record of and analyze conscious activity, and unearth unconscious activity. Keeping a journal is kind of an obvious way to do this. Progoff’s prescription is to do so without self-judgment.

But really, like in the poem, “there is no method.” You will know when your work is meaningful. Even the mundane will bring you peace. I have found that even though part of my work is low-skilled and often disrespected, I find more dignity in it. Really, none of it is mundane. Even traffic jams on the way to meetings have new meaning. Did you know most heart attacks happen on Sunday evening and Monday morning? We dread our jobs–because they bring no meaning, no self-fulfillment. Forget that! Turn that around! Make Mondays meaningful.

Purifying Your Brand

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I’ve been cleaning and polishing my brand, inspired by our work with Kurt Bartolich.

I think I’ve mentioned I started a new website for my work in language (translating, editing, book-coaching, and promoting my work as a thinker, including some published writings). That has helped RAISING CLARITY a lot. It’s helped me focus my blogging here on topics I think are most what you want from RAISING CLARITY. It’s helped me understand what we are and do and how to articulate

RAISING CLARITY’s specialized focus on the inner changes your work makes in you and how to respond to them–so you can make the outer changes you want to make in your work and our world.

Noticing all we are means noticing all we aren’t. I still am seeking the right clients to help and cultivating a larger community of soul-colleagues, as I described here in our “risky business plan,” which I just love. I love the risk we take, the edge we are at–the fact that we are creating our own market of people who know that the work they love calls them to change in ways they need help with. (And who know we can help, and we will, affordably.)

I used to feel ashamed that RAISING CLARITY wasn’t a giant success right off the bat. I look back now and think that’s genuinely funny! It’s cute, what old me thought. It’s wrong, though, because it’s a craft, learning to create your own market and doing your own marketing as well as doing the work you’re good at–coaching and consulting in my case.

Fortunately, you all have told me our work is amazing, intuitive, quietly world-changing. I don’t have self-doubt anymore when it comes to how good we are at what we do. I just have a LOT to learn about sharing it.  So I am teaching myself how to do what we call “promotion with integrity”–and teaching others along with me.

One thing I’ve learned recently is that shame is the opposite of humility. Humility puts me inside the Universal flow. Humility means I acknowledge I need help while partnering with the Universe by working not hard but smart: persistently, strategically, contemplatively.  Shame, on the other hand, blocks that flow. Shame means I don’t show or share that I need help. It’s easy to trick oneself into not showing vulnerability. For me it’s been especially tempting as a successful money coach and a money-raiser–for others. “Do I really have something to offer, if I’m not perfect?” You all have let me know I do–and I am here to let you know YOU do.

So…what about you? Are you careful with your brand? Your time? Your mind? Your energy?

Can you purify your brand and remove everything extraneous and put it someplace else? Do it elsewhere, under a different “hat”?

And–like the movie title–is your brand “crisis”? Is it centered in that culturally approved busy-ness we mistakenly associate with being important? Or is your brand centered in calm self-confidence that reassures others?

Beloved Community of RAISING CLARITY, let’s attune ourselves to a sweeter frequency–not a fever pitch but a hum, a vibrational resonance of clarity and self-confident offering.

And let’s see if that can become part of our brand if it isn’t already. Tell me how that works for you. If you come to what you feel is an obstacle to doing your best work while being calm, strategic, and contemplative, tell us about it and let me try to write about it in a blog post that might help everyone?

Thanks.

Promotion with Integrity is Grounded Promotion

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Wulfenite, upright and grounded in a matrix, in the Red Gem Pocket in Arizona (US). Author: Robert Lavinsky. Source: irocks.com, uploaded to Wikimedia Commons, accessed via Creative Commons Search.

Click on the band above for the recording of the “Grounded Promotion” phone chat!

Introduction

Promotion with Integrity is promotion that doesn’t make you want to puke. Many people actually feel like throwing up when they need to promote something.

Promotion is our lifeblood! It’s how other people know to support us.

Let’s look at this for a moment. Promotion (to some folks) feels so scary it could kill you. Like annihilation. I am NOT exaggerating. Just be happy if this isn’t you and read on. But if it is you, you are not alone. What is this about? Promoting anything means BECOMING VISIBLE. Becoming visible is scary if you have been in hiding. Many of us do incredible work but we are these boutique businesses–and the boutiques are sized for dolls or something. The space within which we work is very, very small! This kind of space for our beloved work feels normal, good, and safe to us. And then along comes the need as well as the desire to expand! UH OH!  Blecch! Bring on the _________ (remedy for nausea: Dramamine; or if you are me, the candied ginger or if you are purer than me, the ginger tea.).

This is why we are starting this series FROM THE GROUND UP, literally. The basics, the root of the solution.  Notice the Earth in the picture. Notice the little red crystal. That’s YOU. Take in that light, that juiciness, that COLOR. Notice how exquisite the support matrix is when you look closely at it–it’s crystal, too. It’s safe. We have a right to the tree of life, children, if we will sit at its roots.

Steps

1. The first thing in being able to promote what is precious to you in a way that feels safe is to feel grounded when you are doing it. How on Earth do you feel grounded? Many readers will already have a way of grounding yourselves; here are some:

  • Sitting with your butt on the Earth is a good one. Notice what an Earthy word “butt” even is.
  • Sitting anywhere and putting your attention on the place your butt connects with where you are sitting.
  • Noticing if the connection feels great–or uncomfortable. You might–especially if you are one of our readers–not always feel like you are even from this planet! Good news: You.Don’t.Have.To.Be.From.Earth.To.Be.Grounded! If you have a human body, it is designed to connect to Earth. So connect already!
  • Lie on the ground, the grass, a huge rock.
  • Wallow in this Earthy, connected, rootsy feeling.
  • See your spine extending its roots into the Earth.

2. The second thing: now try grounding your promotion as well as yourself:

Do exactly what you were doing to get grounded–and think about the thing you want to promote. Obsess about it even–and when you forget to feel grounded, return your attention to grounding. Bring the two together.

You can even put yourself in the Earth. You can bury yourself in sand like at the beach or in the ground like a plant–and “hold” your project within yourself or your leaves. You can make a little garden for your project, and put it in the Earth like a seed.

3. The third way to ground your promotion is make a date with yourself to do some promotional planning. During your appointment with yourself, write a very simple promotional plan. For example, three steps. What makes it a plan is when you give each step its own appointment date and time. Yes, I’m serious; this is what means your plan will turn to action. Please make simple plans. Don’t be influenced excessively by others’ promotion. It doesn’t matter what others are capable of, or do! It matters what you do and that you do some promotion. For you to do some, it has to feel possible–and good. Truly good. If you want some wonderful, doable, ideas, click here. If you want our help, click here.

Phone Chat

We will offer a free Grounded Promotion telephone coaching session for an unlimited number of participants. Here is what you need to know to join us:

Date: Monday, May 23, 2016

Time and Duration: Noon Eastern US Time, for one hour

Cost: Free.

Call-in number: 641-715-3276

Code: 187944# (you will be prompted to give this code once you call the call-in number)

Purpose: Helping you ground your promotional planning & implementing. To get more out of this session, think about these ahead of time: what are you promoting? what’s hard about it? do you generally feel grounded? what do you do when you don’t? Also: why not try the ideas in this post and come to the session with questions?

Meditation

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Tulipa batalinii, “Red Gem.” Author and uploaded by: Ghislain118 to Wikimedia Commons, accessed via Creative Commons Search.

Here you are, breathing, in a body on Earth. Simply direct your attention into the Earth down through this flower. Doesn’t that feel good? Sit in the flower. Feel your connection through the flower down into the Earth. Absorb the red of the petals, and the sunlight embodied in the red petals. Rest in the flower connected to Earth. Bring your project into your lap and simply rest in this beauty, tenderness, support and ease. If you become the flower, that is a good thing. Go with it.


We hope you’ve enjoyed our first post in this series! To understand more about the Promotion with Integrity campaign, click here. For all the posts in the series, click here. Our next post  in the series comes out Monday, May 30th.

 

Identifying Your Inherited Wealth

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Plenty. Coloured etching. Image: P. Gally and P. Gally. Source: Wellcome Images, uploaded to Wikimedia Commons, accessed via Creative Commons Search.

I caught myself using an interesting term today in a coaching session. Soul-colleague (who for the moment was behaving as a client) is facing a decision that would be “easy,” I said, “if you had inherited wealth.” And then I said something that still fascinates me for you, dearest blog readers: “And you do have inherited wealth,” and we both knew what she meant: not of the kind like this:

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Real pirate treasure at the Houston Museum of Natural Science, part of a special exhibit: “Real Pirates: The Untold Story of the Whydah Gally from Slave Ship to Pirate Ship. Image by and uploaded by Theodore Scott.

but more like the one at the top of this post: Plenty, from many sources.

The next time you feel cornered into doing something you wouldn’t have to do if you had inherited wealth, there’s no need to fool yourself into thinking you have pirate treasure. Try this instead:

Identify your inherited wealth. Here are three places to look:
  1. Past lifetimes: No need to take my word for it, just consider what you have known how to do since birth. What you have been good at that not everyone else is so good at. What did you come into this lifetime knowing how to do? (Whatever you call it; my words for it are “karmic inheritance.”)
  2. This lifetime: Privilege; everyone has some, for example, being: white, straight (in world that’s phobic around people who aren’t heterosexual), literate, able-bodied, young (but not too young), born relatively free of trauma. Here are one, two interesting takes on privilege from our blog. (There are others, too, if you search on the term!)
  3. Circumstance, accident, serendipity: Name it. Claim it.

And if your assets do include pirate treasure, claim that too. And just catch yourself and re-think: do I have inherited wealth? How could I use it to help me feel free in this situation?
That’s how it worked for us today.

 

Crystal: And So We Begin Our Journey of Promotion with Integrity

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Quartz, Tibet. Image by JJ Harrison, uploaded to Wikimedia Commons.

This is to announce a series of posts starting next week about promotion (PR, marketing, spreading the word) in alignment with your highest self. Promotion that doesn’t make you want to puke, in other words. We call this Promotion with Integrity.*

Throughout this Summer, from May to August, we’ll be teaching promotion with integrity in seven posts (one every other week). Each post will

  • give you actionable information on doing promotion connected with one of your seven chakras*  in ways you might never have thought of
  • offer a meditation healing each chakra’s ability to help you promote your work
  • announce the day/date/time of a free telephone chat on the promotional topic discussed in the post.

And we will, seven times this Summer

  • host a free telephone chat on the topic of the post
  • answer any/all questions, in detail on the post topic if you submit them as a comment to the blog post (so everyone learns).

We don’t think we know everything about promotion with integrity. We just think we know something.

We know that promotion that feels aligned, wise, clear and GOOD is possible, and sometimes rare.

We want to make it much more possible and much less rare.

You may be holding back promoting your work or project (whether you’re an entrepreneur, academic, healer, world-changer or artist) because promoting it makes you literally feel sick to your stomach. 

This was us! And now, it’s not. We have learned a lot we want to share.

We announce this series to challenge ourselves to write it! In the crystal is each color of the body and the rainbow.  Crystalline structure heals broken patterns into wholeness. We offer this series to your transformation and to promote RAISING CLARITY coaching and consulting. There are no secrets when you do promotion with integrity. None are needed.

If you find you want to try working with us one-to-one, our May special is still on : $56 per hour of coaching or consulting. That’s almost half off our normal rate. Take advantage of it! We invite you to do so. We work in 60-, 30- and even 15-minute increments, by the way. So right now a 15-minute session is only $14. You are most welcome to purchase a 15-minute session. You will get more out of it than you can imagine.

If you aren’t already signed up for our blog, you can do so here. And if you’re curious about what lies between the blog and working with us one-to-one, the answer is here.


*A couple of years ago, we created a Facebook Group you can join called, “Promotion with Integrity.” This fall, we will give an action retreat on doing promotion with integrity, guiding you in exercises and giving you space to design your own promotion plan. We will give it in our home town of Berkeley Springs, West Virginia at the Panorama Event Center. If you know now you want to be invited, please contact us. Space will be limited to 27.

**Energy centers in your physical and subtle body.

Our (Model) Risky Business

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Tree bridge over the River Gaunless. (I like that it sounds a lot like “dauntless.”) “Casting about, however, one finds this splendidly adapted fallen tree, which has a handrail fastened on, and a rope across, to pull yourself up the icy bank on the far side.” Image by and  uploaded to Wikimedia Commons by Andy Waddington, from geograph.uk, accessed via Creative Commons Search.

I’m reading The Path Redefined, Lauren Maillian Bias’ book for entrepreneurs recommended by the founder of Pipeline Angels (quoted in our “Money/economy book suggestion” here). It’s having an impact on me similar to The Seven Levels of Communication.  The author is unlike me in some ways (she wants to be a billionaire, she’s a highly successful serial entrepreneur, single mother of two small children, African-American, and probably still under 30) and like me in that she’s soulful and loves to help us explore really good questions. And she’s very, very happy with where her life is going! You’ll probably hear more about her book in an upcoming Recommended Reading post. (Here’s an excerpt.)

The good questioning exploration of hers I am reading now (early on in the book) is, what do you want to be doing in the foreseeable future?

Many authors ask us this. The way Bias helps us get there enchants me. Below, I summarize her exercise to help you see your “path redefined. Then I reveal my own. (Sharing my exploration with you is a time-sculpting device: make it count twice, and give yourself permission to give it more time.)

Bias says: Allow your “mind to wander without limits,” looking closest at possibilities “that seem most nearly impossible to attain but with the greatest potential rewards” and choose “the one path to the future that gets [you] most motivated and excited,” inspiring you to set “smaller, readily attainable goals” along “the exact path…[to your] lofty, aspirational goal.” She asks we check in with ourselves: “Will it have been worth it even if I fail?” “Once that answer is clearly a resounding ‘yes,’ the potential risks morph into rewards” (p. 24).

I love the way Bias nudges us into our big dream.*

As I did this exercise, I saw RAISING CLARITY on a cushion giving wise help to just the people who need her. There was no drama and not a lot of noise. There was a steady quiet flow in, and out.

Though I have never spelled it out and admitted it publicly, this is

  • the lofty aspirational goal that most motivates and excites me (having a lot of time to spend on each client, knowing just what to say to each, being a quiet space for each to be as well as to receive answers to questions, being a drama-free zone where we look at our own stuff as the Divine Curriculum rather than blaming anyone–others or ourselves, knowing when it is time to help, when it is time to listen, when it is time to let go of a client)
  • the one most nearly impossible to attain (only because it is hard to affirm in this business climate; I already have attained it, exactly! I now only want to increase the steady, quiet flow by an order of magnitude)
  • the one with the greatest potential rewards (making a living by (my own precise) design)
  • the one that gets me most motivated and excited (as a contemplative with travel, parenting, loverly, philosophic and activist commitments)
  • the one that will have totally been worth it if I fail.

RAISING CLARITY’s business model is to become so wise we can locate the exact right people for us to serve and give them the exact right help. Getting this wise will totally have been worth it even if I fail.  You can see how in today’s  hyperconnected, white-noisy world, it’s the one most nearly impossible to attain and as a business model, that it’s risky. Perfect! I love it!!!

Bias’ “go-for-broke” approach (combined with her obvious, astonishing business acumen described in the book) gave me permission–no, authority!–to claim it, and share it. Even though it is wildly different from Bias’ big dream! RAISING CLARITY are like this with you, too: supporting your model whether it is business as usual, or businessunusual.

Support us in having our perfect stream of clients; offer kind intention we succeed. Thank you to you who refer us! Support us by asking if we can help with something. We’ll tell you the truth–and refer you to someone who can help, if it’s not we. Support us sharing your big dream for yourself in a comment to this post.


*If you are paying close attention to the specifics of Bias’ exercise, you’ll notice I’ve omitted the “smaller, readily attainable goals” along the exact path. She’s right; these are important! I’ve completed: redefining abundance, learning to live with more spaciousness in my mind and schedule than most people can stand! And understanding those two are the same thing, for me. Also: learning to say no, learning to say “yes!” and negotiate payment for my work ever more directly, experimenting with rates, packages, and sliding scales. Learning it is safe to be popular (I’ve come a long way since last August when I wrote that post). Recently realizing I’m an entrepreneur because I’m a risk-taker and innovator, not simply a small-business-starter. Understanding my entrepreneurial drive doesn’t take me on the same path as others’ just means the word fits me that much more! And helps me see I have allies, and a book like Bias’ is written for me, too. Bias’ book reassures me it’s normal for me to sacrifice everything for my big dream! Even though my big dream is to be a billionaire of spaciousness and wisdom.

New “smaller, readily attainable goals” include reaching an order of magnitude more people by telling our story in new ways. Perhaps on their journey with us, they take a training or workshop with us, buy the book we are writing, subscribe to this blog, join our community. It’s my big dream that only a self-selected few end up visiting RAISING CLARITY on her cushion but that all gain discernment, help, and answers.

Frankly, I think ours is a business model others should risk!

It’s My Birthday: Enjoy Your Present!

 

Time for our Annual Birthday Special!

I turn 56 this month. Being alive on the planet is a huge gift I celebrate. And I love my birth-month: May! So green and gorgeous where I am, such lush blessing. I very naturally (that’s a pun) want to give away in thanks. The best I can give is my time. My time is usually $100/hour so for the entire month of May, it is $56/hour. You can share this offer with anyone you choose. Bonne anniversaire!

Fire Sail

11400977_449542775204492_8443523281671313050_nOne year ago yesterday I sailed out of a fire with my very own life. I am still trying to live the learnings from that life-changing event, equaled only by homebirthing my daughter.

The fire was another home-birth, in an important sense, a rebirth of a much deeper self I am increasingly brave enough to show the world. I want to remember and live its teachings and so I give them away to you.

To keep things, we give them away; that’s something the fire taught me. After it, a number of actual tangible objects I had given others were returned to me as though I had placed them with others for safekeeping. I think this also works with intangible objects.

Thanks to our soul-colleague BJ Appelgren for thinking to create this graphic from our learnings as we heard them at the time. BJ is not only an author, she’s a visual artist, you remember her collage post this Spring.