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Cultivating a Fundraising Relationship with A Business

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“Bread-eating crow. Hooded crow (Corvus cornix) with a piece of bread in its bill.” Image by and uploaded to Flikr by hedera.baltica, accessed via Creative Commons search.

First and Foremost

Many nonprofits and pre-nonprofits (projects) want to raise money from businesses and corporations, but forget a few important things that later get in their way:

  1.  Your distaste will not serve you. If you are skeptical of capitalism or (like me) beyond skeptical and convinced it is a shell game, do not swallow your disgust and try to raise money with that stuck in your craw. It might work for a short time, but I would never help you do it and you will hate everything even more than you already do, with the addition of hating yourself. If you are fine with capitalism, no worries and keep reading. If you are not–there is another way. Keep reading.
  2. Notice that whenever you fundraise, you create a relationship. Relationships are the through-lines along which money flows. So please only create relationships you want. (Don’t pretend you aren’t creating a relationship. See #1.)
  3. You can give up capitalism without giving up money and the need for money. This is where I am at. I’m interested in alternative currencies and gift economies, but I am also right here working in the money fields. See where you are with money. If you need it but don’t want it, you have a problem. (Don’t pretend you don’t have a problem. See #1 and #2.) Resolve your problem (moneycoaching helps) in order to make enough peace within yourself and your organization/project/core group to allow you raise money (= ask for + receive + in gratitude) successfully.
  4. Decide whom you want to build relationships with in the business world and the corporate world. I’m using “business” to mean small, often locally-owned businesses. (You decide if a franchise is a locally-owned business. This is about how you feel, not me; I’m just here to help you discern how you actually feel.) I’m using “corporation” and “corporate” to mean large, nationally owned and often multinationally operating businesses.
  5. This means you need to know not only what you want, but who is out there and what they do that they advertise, and what they do that they don’t advertise. Are they proud of every aspect of their own operations? Find out! If they are local, you may already know most about them. If they are national, they may have a lot more money to give away.
  6. No one is willing to be taken for granted. If you set about building a relationship with a business, remember you are building a relationship with people you know or whom you are just a couple of degrees of separation away from knowing. They are people. Don’t take them for granted; how do you want to be related to?: care, patience, research. If you set about building a relationshiop with a corporation, they are still people: care, patience, research are still called for.
  7. What’s in it for them? Ask yourself. What do you offer them? Get very clear. And let them know what you offer them. Hint: a business will value relating to you more for its own sake; a corporation will want more because relating to you personally is only so important to them. They are thinking in bigger terms about their markets and the demographics (group characteristics) of the people who form their markets. They want to know how you will build their markets. Believe me, you can and you will if you relate to them; they will get a lot of mileage out of the giving they do to you. So be sure you want that relationship.

The Fine Detail

The example below shares more detail I gave our soul-colleague and client I mention at the top of this post. (No detail is given that identifies either the business or our client. That’s to protect both of them, but also to make it clear that this strategy works with anyone for anyone prepared to think deeply in this way about building relationships with businesses.)

  1. How far away from the relationship you want are you? Another way to ask this: How many degrees of separation are you? Do you know the owner? Someone who works there and thus works for the owner? (0 degrees is I know you; 1 degree is I know someone who knows you.)
  2. How can you close up the gap so you are building a relationship as directly as you can to the owner of the business?
  3. Most appropriate first contact is probably not by phone but email or letter. You want your mail opened, so spend some time on A and B.
  4. You want a larger gift, of course. You want a loyal gift that you don’t have to work so hard every time to raise. So think that this is a long-term relationship you are cultivating.
  5. Message of the letter: you’ve probably heard about [us–your project or organization]. We want to meet with you to tell you more about us and why it would be excellent for your business to support us. Think: how is it excellent for them to support us? Include this in the message. Put yourself in their place. See #7 above.
  6. Figure out what you want: money? an in-kind gift? of what? why? where does it fit into your budget? how does it help you? This is your ask during your meeting. All of it–how much you want, what for, how it builds your organization. Try not to ask until you get a chance to meet.
  7. When you meet, and after you’ve answered their questions and built a bond, ask for what you want, and be quiet. Let them think. If they say yes, great. Work out the details of how they want to give the money and when (this should work for your time-frame as well as theirs). If they say no, ask: what would it take for you to give what we ask? It’s ok to be that direct, businesses are comfortable with money. If they push you to accept an in-kind gift when you really need money, let them know you are happy to accept an in-kind gift later, but now you need the money for x reason. If you know a friend of theirs has given, let them know their friend company has given: they and their friend are connected. There’s already a relationship there. That helps them trust you. (Yes, they need to trust you, too.)

Seek a Brand Match

Next, my client and I clarified the brand of the business the nonprofit wants to build a relationship with. A way to think about this is to ask: what adjectives do we associate with this business?:

  • High-quality
  • Specialized
  • Unique
  • Attention to detail
  • Integrity
  • Simple and beautiful.

We were struck that these adjectives also describe our client, the nonprofit. We could honestly say that giving to this nonprofit is good for this business: it is completely consistent with their brand in a specific way; association with the nonprofit is of value to you, the business person; we will publicize your gift to our donors. (If there is a brand match, chances are good your donors are their customers.) NoticeL we could be happy we were going to help them sell more of their stuff. If you cannot honestly say this, go back to #1.

Two Tips

  • If you’re local, offer them a “factory tour” if you have a physical location.
  • Let go of “should.” As in, they should give to you because they have a lot of money. No one owes us a gift, ever.

There is something edgy and wonderful and frankly crazy about nonprofits; they should be impossible to keep going,like hummingbirds who (according to physics) are too heavy to fly. But nonprofits do fly! Why? Because of persistent, inexplicable kindness and solidarity on the part of humans who are not directly involved in the work, as well as those who are.

This post shares my opinions to make it easier for you to discern yours. Mine are not necessarily the same as yours. Share yours!
If you are own or represent a business or corporation and are reading this post, I would love to know how you feel about it, too!

Recommended Reading I

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Bouquinistes on the river of the Seine in Paris. Image by Jebulon, who seems like the kindest Wikimedia contributor ever, as well as one of the most successful.

This week, a soul-colleague said she wanted to see “a recommended reading list with different categories available on your website.” No higher honor! I had put off the idea for a long time. Why, I wonder now? I had so much fun beginning this series, and using her suggested categories. (She can identify herself if she likes: Thank you, J!) I will add to it regularly. And now it has its own easy-to-find blog category.

Money/economy book suggestions:

Money Magic, by Deborah L. Price. The foundational book of my work as a moneycoach.

Well being and how to be in life suggestions:

Transcendent Sex: When Lovemaking Opens the Veil, by Jenny Wade.

Fiction:

Always Outnumbered, Always Outgunned or anything else ever written by Walter Mosley.

Authors and Thinkers that you are following:

See Fiction, above.  I take this opportunity to recommend a less-known Mosley novel especially for white folks working on our racism: The Man in My Basement. Be sure to write in with your comments on that one.

Social change:

I’m going truly to indulge myself and triple-dip with a much less famous work of nonfiction by Walter Mosley: What Next?: A Memoir Toward World Peace, written soon after September 11th, 2001, and as applicable now.

Think interlibrary loan! I live in a town about as big as your hand and get books from all over the Eastern region, including the Library of Congress through interlibrary loan and the grace of librarians. Support your local library, and independent/used bookstores.

I’m allowed to do the anti-racism work I’m good at: Post #18 in Our Series, What One (White) Person Can Do

When I started the Adaptation Network, I decided I just didn’t have to deal anymore with naysayers who needed proof climate was changing. It was time for an organization that was going to push our societal envelope by starting from a point of unity in the conversation: climate change is happening and people are causing it. Those who weren’t at that point of unity could just talk to someone else. (They did, and it worked out fine. It really was time for that kind of organization.)

Recently, I allowed myself to feel a similar calling when it comes to “clarifying racism in order to end it,” RAISING CLARITY’s mission with respect to racial* healing:  I don’t have to deal with naysayers who need proof (for example) that the racial* playing field’s not level, microagressions really happen, and structural racism is a thing.

My calling is to direct my work toward whites who already see we are racist. But is it time for this kind of organizing? Is it fair to take on the “easy” white folks and leave the “hard” ones to others?

If I put it that way, No. But in putting it that way, I am failing to maximize my useful gifts: being white; being committed to coming to anti-racist consciousness; having a public platform, a practice of self-criticism and self-awareness and a stable enough meditative awareness to know that my I Am is not racist, not white, not anything other than One and this is true of all people.

IF I claim my work as shaped by these gifts, I feel the energy start to shift and my guides say, YES. Go that way, from a position of strength and impetus organic to me and the project at hand.

That impetus–which can be described as an internally generated momentum–is a sign to me that a project is a worthy one and a workable one. (Whether it’s my project or someone else’s.)

So our racial* healing work will be directed toward whites who “get it,” and are ready for the next step. The next step for me has to do with increasing our consciousness of what we are, and what others are. Whiteness limits white people in constantly operating “programs” no matter who we’re around. Even when we are in all-white environments, even when we are by ourselves.

These “programs” are what I have prayed to see, and worked inwardly to see: how we can stop identifying with whiteness and playing out its programs. This is how we change ourselves “upstream” of any actual acts (micro- or macro-) toward people of color. We can be active changemakers inwardly and outwardly driven entirely by the desire to live at peace rather than shallower desires to be politically correct, or “nice,” or what have you. Though this consciousness and ending of “programs’ does mean we become easier to be around individually and en masse in society.

You know the expression telling us we should “meet people where they are”? I can only meet people where I Am. And this is where I am: whiteness is self-limiting inequality when you compare it with our true humanity and divinity.


*We put quotes around the word “racial” because although it has meaning, its meaning is socially given and doesn’t refer to anything natural: there is only one race (the human race).

PS: If you don’t know what I’m talking about in this post, it should become clearer in the near future. In the meantime, no biggie. Read the other posts in this series, or read our earlier series, ‘Working “Racially,” Claiming Grandeur.’

PPS: This quote from Mother Teresa’s letter to Lynne Twist illuminates our work on whiteness:

“The vicious cycle of poverty, she said, has been clearly articulated and is widely known. What is less obvious and goes almost completely unacknowledged is the vicious cycle of wealth. There is no recognition of the trap wealth so often is, and of the suffering of the wealthy: the loneliness, the isolation, the hardening of the heart, the hunger and the poverty of the soul that can come with the burden of wealth. She said that I had extended little or no compassion to the strong, the powerful, and the wealthy, while they need as much compassion as anyone else on earth.

“You must open your heart to them and become their student and their teacher,” she said in her letter. “Open your compassion and include them. This is an important part of your life’s work. Do not shut them out. They also are your work.”

 

 

Finding Your Self at Work: The Ninth Step, actually making those amends

 

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“The step here broke; and I was so concerned for my homeowners insurance that someone would hurt themselves on it…” Caption and image by and uploaded by osseous to Flikr, accessed by Creative Commons Search.

Let’s cut to the chase. Step Nine is we

9. Made direct amends to all people we have harmed [through our addiction to capitalism] wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

If you’ve been following this series, you started with Step One and you are ready to make amends to those you’ve harmed because of your addiction to the race for money, which we are glossing as “capitalism.”

Or you just got here. If you did, and you know enough about the 12 Steps, this post may make sense but you might want to back up a bit and do the moral inventory of Steps Four/Five and Step Eight’s list of whom you’ve harmed.

After doing both of those, I came up with this short list of people I’ve harmed during my abandonment of my precious self to the Great G-d Capitalism (which you remember is the chase after money, not money itself):

  1. my child
  2. each of my former partners in different ways
  3. the people who make cheap consumer goods I have bought rather than buying goods from companies that pay a truly living and usually unionized wage to people to make those goods
  4. employers and customers on jobs where I hated the work but “needed the money.”

I have begun delving into these wounds and what I can do about them that does no further harm. Right now, here is what I have come up with:

  1. My child: apologize. Let her know I know. Listen to what she responds.
  2. Each of my former partners in different ways: Make dates to delve into these inside myself one by one. (I calendared the first one to include calendaring the one after that, and so forth, so I don’t get overwhelmed). Sit with how and whether it’s appropriate to make an amend specific to that person. (For guidance on timing and non-future-harming, see the links in Step Eight (“great words and more from alcoholics, alcoholics, and other addicts).
  3. The people who make cheap consumer goods…: These workers do not need me to sit down and apologize to them, they need me to get my foot off their necks. I stay in touch with their lived reality so they can not become an anonymous abstraction to me, in part through two organizations, international and national. I acknowledge the suffering created by my purchases and the difficulty of finding and affording alternatives. My personal campaign is to substitute for cheap consumer goods in these ways, influenced by  Thich Nhat Hanh’s mindfulness trainings #4 and 5 + Gandhi’s swadeshi:
    • make what I can
    • do without
    • buy it used
    • invest in good-quality, fairly waged goods.
    • support organizations and organizing to end the oppression of working people.
  4. Employers and customers on jobs where I hated the work but “needed the money”: Some of these I am no longer in touch with and it feels absurd to return to them 20, 30, 40 years later. One of them actually fired me because although  she really needed my help, she could not abide my attitude, it poisoned her shop! I can find her and thank her. I feel I have repressed some of these experiences. I have made a date to sit and try to recover these memories. Another approach of mine that is probably different from most is to appreciate myself and stop making myself wrong for all the times I quit or refused work that I hated.  And be grateful for the times I tried to get jobs that I found disgusting and couldn’t get them! Hallelujah, Universe!

Novelist Joan Didion wrote that “we tell ourselves stories in order to live.” I write these blog posts in order to reflect and live a reflected life. I am wide open to your suggestions for working Step Nine and to your questions and stories in comments to this post. Thanks to the folks who published this list of the 12 Steps.

Finding Your Self at Work: The Eighth Step, being willing to make amends

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Broken Steps and a Crooked Fence. Image by and uploaded by Michael Coghlan to Flikr, accessed via Creative Commons.

Now that we are free of the force of our addiction (see Steps One through Seven) we are fortified with the force of our beginning to heal from the addictive race for money. Good thing, because Whoa! here is Step Eight: we

8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

Can you imagine doing this for those you’ve harmed by your addiction to money?

Me neither. So I got support: here are some great words and more from alcoholics, alcoholics, and other addicts who have worked and counseled others to work Step Eight. (You can see my digest of tips below.)

Here is a start at my Step Eight list, in no particular order.  I have harmed, in my race for money (and in that race, my sacrifice of all I listed in Step Four*)

  • my child
  • each of my former partners in different ways
  • the people who make cheap consumer goods I have bought rather than buying goods from companies that pay a truly living and usually unionized wage to people to make those goods
  • employers and customers on jobs where I hated the work but “needed the money.”

I’m lucky that I don’t have debt. If you have harmed others through debting, it goes on your list. By the way, you may enjoy working with our soul-colleague, financial organizer and counselor West Beth (as we call her) and/or with me on moneycoaching.

Digest of Tips for Working Step Eight
  • Separate Step Eight into two parts: make a list + become willing (actually making amends is in Step Nine)
  • Use divine timing (intuition, work with a sponsor or advisor or trusted friend) to help you identify when to make your amends, in what order, and to help you identify how, so you make nothing worse and receive the promises of Step Eight (see promises at bottom of this link)
  • It’s ok to write a letter to someone who has died to whom you want to make amends. You can even read it aloud to a trusted friend
  • It’s not best to put yourself on the list, and surely not at the top, though it is normal to put yourself on the “searching and fearless moral inventory” you made in Step Four (mine’s on display in Step Five)
  • A starter grid (+ sample list) to help us name people we’ve harmed, and how we’ve harmed them, is here
  • A list of what is meant by “harm” is here, for we who need that spelled out
  • It gets easier after this and Step Nine, in which you actually make amends
  • You don’t have to think of all of them at first, this can be a long-term thing and usually is
  • Make easier amends first and use the energy you get from that to fuel you to make more
  • When we do Step Eight, “rarely do we fail to make satisfactory progress.” (See the very bottom of that link.)

*”Here it is [my Step Four moral inventory], my start at feeling and acknowledging all I abandoned of my precious self to the Great God Capitalism (the chase for money, remember, not money itself): my self-esteem, my identity, my reason for existence, my intrinsic goodness, my worth, my knowing what needed to be done next for real (whatever made the most money, right?), my friendships, my interests.

Here is the link to all Twelve Steps at a website written for folks with any type of addiction.

Finding Your Self at Work: The Seventh Step, asking for help letting capitalism go

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Image by John Lloyd Stephens, from page 88 of the book, Incidents of Travel in Central America Chiapas and Yucatan,  published 1854. Uploaded to Wikimedia Commons by William Maury Morris II.

Back in Step Six, you had reached the culmination of healing your addiction to capitalism which you started in Step One.

Step Six was just being “entirely ready” to have a Power greater than yourself* remove your addiction. That’s a big step, but not impossible for someone who’s taken a self-inventory (Step Four) and admitted responsibility (Step Five ) for your addiction. It is totally weird but those two steps make all the difference; they are the “motor” as far as I can tell.

So since you are entirely ready, now all you do is ask. That’s all Step Seven is, in this version of the 12 Steps: we

7. Humbly asked a Power greater than ourselves to remove our shortcomings.

Can you do that?

Can I do that?

It sounds simple til you try it and–what gets in your way? List it here in a comment to this post. Surrender what gets in your way that way, in a comment, and then try again.

I will too.

And we’ll check in next Monday, for Step Eight.


*Whichever it is–the Power you identified in Step Three. The one you trusted in enough to surrender to around Step Four or, paradoxically, Step Five. 

 

PS: It’s a month after the Winter Solstice and 20 days after January 1st: do you know where your resolve is? Just askin’…

Inspiring Entrepreneurial Soul-Colleague

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Arianna Groover-Landis.

Arianna is one of our youngest soul-colleagues. She turns 13 this March. Fresh-faced and freckled, she exudes kindness and groundedness. She’s an avid reader and is learning French. She’s an entrepreneur, co-op developer, farmer, and she works with children. She’s considering becoming an investment advisor. This post arose after she participated in our “Healing Power of Moving Money” workshop in Morgantown, West Virginia. That’s near where she lives with her family on Possum Tail Farm in Terra Alta, West Virginia.

When her mother proposed bringing her to the workshop, I tried to dissuade her: “Kids don’t want to think about money. You shouldn’t bring her,” I said. I thought I knew something.

Then her mother told me some things I hadn’t known about Arianna. (They are in the introductory paragraph to this post.) I love being wrong! I told her mother to for sure bring her, and knew Arianna would be a huge asset to the other participants as well as getting plenty out of the workshop herself. One thing we do in the workshop is identify our money archetypes. Arianna’s primary archetype—not surprisingly—is the Magician.

I knew I wanted to interview Arianna even before the workshop, but after the workshop, I stayed with Arianna’s family and had an even deeper experience of the Magicianship of the whole family who form Possum Tail Farm. I tagged along that rainy morning with Arianna on “chicken chores.” We did a little French-speaking together, and I ate a delicious breakfast and lunch with Arianna and her family.

Arianna has already developed several businesses. When I interviewed her, she was gearing up for a more complex, cooperative business at the upcoming farmer’s market. I started out asking her about her prior business experiences:

The first thing I ever did was knitting stuff and sell it at a health food store because they supported arts and crafts.

The next thing was selling flowers at the farmer’s market. I grew them. And then the next year at the farmers’ market, I played the dulcimer the whole year. It’s called “busking.”

Where did you get that idea?

I saw one of my friends play cello at the market. Mom and I both thought, “Hey, that’s a good idea, why don’t I do that?”

She has also sold lemonade, but not just anywhere: she sold it on Memorial Day–at the neighborhood cemetery! Smart girl and kind, I said.

I invited my friend who is five over for a playdate and we decided we would run a lemonade stand. We had a table up at the top of the driveway. She didn’t want money, she wanted a piggy bank. So I went and got her a piggy bank at the Dollar Store and I put her half of the money in. We made $29 that day. 29 cups of lemonade. We figured out that it was 65 cents/gallon. It was surprisingly cheap. We made it with Mom’s organic sugar, lemon juice, and water.

She knows the proportions by heart even now. I ask her where she got the idea to make money—because for me it is still kind of a wild idea—but I note that for her, it sounds like it’s natural—right?

I know that to get money you have to work and you have to do something, it isn’t going to blow in on the wind.

What advice do you have for people about money?

Save. Save, because saving is always better than spending.

How do you know when to spend?

I’ll either really really want it or I’ll think I need it and then I’ll decide, do I really need this and what am I going to use it for?

Last year you told me you spent $300 from your over $400 in savings that you wish you hadn’t spent. What did you learn from that?

I learned that I just need to hold back and not everything I think I want, I really want. My brain might be saying “I want it,” but I really don’t.

How do you know you don’t want it?

I don’t use the stuff that I got. It’s just something that sits around.

How will you use that experience to avoid doing the same thing in the future?

Wait 30 days, and if you still want it at the end of that 30 days, you should get it because you’ll probably use it a lot.

I wanted [a] portable DVD player and Mom told me to wait 30 days, and two weeks into it–halfway through–I decided I wanted the zipline because we want to make  it more magical for visiting kids to be here. And I knew that a zipline for older kids would be awesome, it would be amazing to have. I think it would pull the whole thing together. The sandbox would be almost the finishing touch, but it’s for younger kids and the rope swing is for all ages, but the zipline will tie the whole thing together. I would use it every day. I’d just go out there and even once back and forth–I would use it and I know I would. It’s just such a cool thing. You can imagine that you’re just flying.

You’re starting high school a couple of years early. What are your goals this year?

To get my bank account up to a thousand dollars this year. I tried to do it last year but I didn’t quite make it. [On the farm, what] you get in the summer is basically what it’s going to be, besides chicken chores. I like spending something for me, that’s my spending money, the rest goes in the bank account.

What are you going to do differently this year to make that happen?

I’ll probably save a little more than I did last year, I probably won’t spend as much  of my chicken chores money this year. I’m happy with what I have right now. People will always want more things because we’re humans, but I have all the stuff I really want. Reaching $1000 is big, you know, for me, because I’ve been saving money since I was five.

The reason I started saving my  money was for a ruby necklace. Mom would take me in the shop to gawk at it. It was so pretty. It was the first thing I ever wanted. It was like, I really wish I could have that, let me save my money.

(Arianna later received the necklace from a relative and it was one of the most magical moments of her life. But it didn’t make her stop earning and saving, as it might have me!)

I want to have enough money to support my family if we ever needed it. You know, expect the unexpected. I also want to build a cabin so I can live on the farm and have my own place. I guess that’s the root cause of me saving my money.

She explains she would live in the cabin when she is a teenager. “Something small, enough for one person.” And says she’d need help to build it!  This cracks me up: it would never have occurred to me when I was a teenager that I could even help build my own house! “It’s an idea and it sort of lodged itself in my head.” When she says that, I know that if she decides she still wants it when the time comes, it will happen.

Freedom from Deserving

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Henri Rousseau’s “Bouquet of Flowers” (1909-10). I liked its curious flatness for this post. Held at the Barnes Foundation, who uploaded this image to Wikimedia Commons.

I just want to say three things about deserving:

  1. I don’t deserve bad things that happen to me. It helps my development as a person greatly when I stop trying to find reasons I deserve what I find “bad” in my life and rather notice them, and work with them.
  2. I also don’t deserve the good things that happen to me. This is more radical. It helps me accept the amazing blessings I receive, and receive more of them, not to try to become worthy of them. I just notice them and work with them.
  3. Jail is the idea we can “deserve” bad things. The key that put us in jail was the idea we deserve good things if we are “good,” and if we stay separate from those who are “bad.”

The key that got us in will get us out. Open the door and give back the key: there is no deserving, the jig is up.

Which Limits to Set?

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An abstract (and to me, beautiful) way of seeing limits: the straight line is called an “asymptote” of the curved one. At infinity, they come together. How do we intersect with infinite possibility? Thanks to Doctormatt for this image, “Asymptote 2,” uploaded via Wikimedia Commons.

 

THIS post about the beauty and joy of self-chosen limits intrigued me so much I kept it for nearly a year to write to you about! (Its author was also my blogging teacher. Hats off and thanks!) If it inspires you to try self-chosen limits, how do you choose them? Try these

Three Criteria for Self-Chosen Limits

  1. Compassion:

    Using resources consciously and generously offers us many ways to be a compassionate citizen of this planet–and increases our abundance. This has challenges, which engender creativity. Your limits are probably not compassionate to others if they are not compassionate to your highest self.

  2. Creativity: 

    My “White Authors Fast” began as a anti-racist commitment. It has blossomed into a feast! While it is challenging because of racism that infuses our publishing and purchasing markets, and while I thought of it at first as a compassionate sacrifice, the beneficiary of the compassion is ME–my mind, the fabulous conversations I engage now, my new worldviews and understandings. My persistence in the face of “rational” objections rewards me with intellectual flying-carpet journeys I would never otherwise take. Your creative limits do not need to be approved by the Rationality Police.

  3. Challenge:

    I keep thoughtful limits on my availability via cellphone, voicemail, email, and social media. This increases clients’ and friends’ respect for my time and theirs, creating a sweet organic filter demonstrating the beauty of the RAISING CLARITY brand for those who feel drawn to it, and compassion toward myself as a beacon to others. Your limits can challenge you in ways you already hunger to grow.